EROS-Q Journal
Research, resources, and conversation starters for couples who believe there is more to their erotic lives together.
Esther Perel offers a quietly radical redefinition of sexual fantasy — one that has nothing to do with costumes, elaborate scenarios, or anything that has to actually happen.
A New York Times essay about hedgehogs and foxes turns out to be a surprisingly useful lens for understanding what couples actually need — and why neither pure comfort nor pure novelty is the answer.
Most advice about keeping the spark alive focuses on what happens in the bedroom. The research points somewhere more interesting — and far less intimidating.
Familiarity is the slow enemy of eroticism. This video makes the case — with rare clarity — for why novelty and roleplay are not frivolous additions to a long-term relationship but essential ones.
The science on novelty and sexual desire is more nuanced — and more hopeful — than most couples expect. Here is what peer-reviewed research tells us about keeping eroticism alive over time.